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Laurie Lupold

It is only logical that the war in Iraq has caused great conflict in the world. Whether we agree or disagree it sure has caused us to take a more in-depth look at ourselves as well as others. Seems now we have become more guarded with our emotions and at times less accepting of the way others feel. We have become at odds with those who may not see ideals in the same light.

Is it so important that we agree? Have we not been brought up in an existence where we are free to choose? Though we may differ, have we not developed the tools that allow us to accept the efforts of others' choices? Rather than become the controlling would it not be of more purpose to address the root of the conflict at hand so that it has less of an opportunity to rebirth itself in another time or another place? To see ourselves as models of product, not price.

In my opinion, and my opinion certainly is not based on divine educated authority by no means, the problem at hand stemmed by a need to control. To me, the need for such power and strength deems from lack of esteem in one's self and total disrespect for others'. These who demand such control seem to absorb this strength to feel better about who they are. By direct manipulation of others this individual becomes authoritative and proud while leaving his victims feeling weak and insignificant. Thus the victim cowers, leaving himself at the mercy of the defiant.

Understandably we do not have the ability to correct the woes of the world. There is no magic wand to wave and no immediate cure. However there are small steps we can take which will allow ourselves and others not to fall victim and in response by using these tools individuals may not become so overwhelmed with hate that they become the defiant who later dictate others' lives.

Take an honest interest in your self-esteem. If you see gray areas in how you view yourself, acknowledge them. Are they realistic? Have you caught yourself up in a life of self-ridicule? Are you seeking perfection in an imperfect world? Are there areas you'd like to see a change? If so, is that logical? How do you address it? Be your own individual. Do not bring yourself up to be someone's carbon copy. Don't compare. You are a unique and important individual. The person you are, and will later become, is essential to this phase of life. There is a divine purpose for you. Build your own tower of humanity and share this with all you come in contact with.

Allow others to feel acknowledged even if it's solely by a smile. A frown is a sign of inner sadness, insecurity. Reassure that frown with a kindness. Warm people with your words. Be humane.

Grieve for those whose lives are lost whether in death or immortality. Whether or not you agree, honor that loss by being a caring representative of life. Feel pain that their lives have passed beyond us and sorrow for those whose lives could have been enhanced had they known a grace such as your own. Always remember that resentment only sparks further conflict and conflict further pain. Wishing you all serenity wherever you are.